I only made one goal this year for the Sanity Challenge: to stop telling myself I don't have time to take care of myself.
Really, it was about the whole story I tell myself.
As a child, we're born into a certain life. The good, the bad, and everything in between- we have no control over it. But as we grow, we often find the stories from our childhood influencing us as adults.
My goal this month has been to change my story and thus to change my perspective.
Want to know how I did?
Story #1: I have to make all the food for Christmas, including food I can eat, plus lots of dishes and desserts I can't have because everyone else will be expecting that.
The real story? I can cook a delicious meal by only making recipes I can eat and everyone else will be happy with that. If they want something I can't eat, like cookies, they'll buy them at the store or make them.
What Happened: I started by attempting to do everything myself, got all worked up and stressed out, then realized (with the help of my sister) that I was going about the meal the wrong way. I decided to make a list of the foods I could eat and only cook those. That list was actually plenty of food for everyone, but it left a few traditional dishes off (stuffing and cookies). So I delegated and printed out recipes for my family members to make. Once I knew that everyone else would pitch in and help me cook, it took the pressure off of me. And once that happened, I realized I didn't actually mind doing the cooking. I ended up spending today making most of the recipes I had delegated to other people...and I enjoyed every minute. I was doing it because I wanted to, not because I had to.
Story #2: I don't have time to meditate daily.
The real story? Excuses, excuses, excuses! I counsel my clients to meditate more, then fail to make it part of my own daily routine. The truth is I can prioritize and make the time every day if I want to.
What Happened: I've been traveling a lot this month, and I've used that as an excuse to fall behind on self-care. Two days ago, I finally woke up and decided I'd had enough. I've been meditating daily since then, and while three days isn't a lot, I'm hoping I can make it stick this time.
What stories do you tell yourself? What would happen if you changed that story?
Other posts in the Sanity retreat so far (and it’s not too late to join us!)
- Intro Post for the Dec Sanity Retreat at Gluten Free Goodness
- Ginger Lemon Girl’s A Peaceful Holiday Season
- Sleep, Move, Dance, Stretch at City|Life|Eats
- Join the December Sanity Challenge here at The Daily Dietribe
- Kickoff Post at Gluten Free Goodness
- Kate of Eat, Recycle Repeat Shares her Do's of the Season
- Zen of Candy Cane Marshmallows at Gluten Free Goodness
- Chacha’s gluten-free kitchen Sanity Goals and German Chocolate Bites
- “Being Gentle" at Gluten Free Goodness
- December Merriment at Yoga Twist on Life
- Self-Care at Healthy Happy Vibrant
- Preciousness of Our Moments here at The Daily Dietribe
- Gluten Free Goodness Takes "A Pause”
- Embracing the Here and Now with Love at The Canary Files