Tuesday, June 26, 2012

10 Signs + 10 Lessons + 10 Goals = 30 Years

Ten signs that I've become an adult
  1. Last night I was woken up at 1am by the neighbors having a loud party. I'm pretty sure the parents were out of town and this was a teenage boy party because I heard lots of yelling about beer pong. I turned on my light, stomped over to my window in my baggy pajamas and glared. I contemplated yelling, "Shut the f#*@ up" because that's what I was thinking. But I refrained. I'm not sure if it's the fact that I was so mad about my disturbed sleep or that I had the restraint to not shout out my window that makes me an adult. One of the two. 
  2. I went to bed at 8:30pm a few nights ago. I'm pretty sure I'll be in bed by 9pm tonight. 
  3. Two years ago, my house was the one on the street keeping the neighbors up with our all-night parties. Ah, the good old days. 
  4. My biggest goal for this year is to get my health under control so that I can go off birth control and be able to get pregnant. Did I just say that out loud? 
  5. I no longer keep a balanced checkbook. I used to have no problem with this because it was simple. Money in, money out. Now I have rent, bills, my own business (!), school, loans...money's coming in and going out and flying all over the place and it makes my head spin. 
  6. My teddy bears spend most nights on the couch instead of in my bed. Some nights they still sleep with me though. I think that's perfectly normal. 
  7. I no longer post my every thought on Facebook the way I used to post my every thought as an away message on AIM. I still post about every third thought though. 
  8. When I happen to see exes making out with new girlfriends on Facebook, I unsubscribe and walk away. Okay, stomp away. But this is a big improvement over what I might have done a few years ago. 
  9. I make myself apologize to people when I know I've been a pain in the ass. Well, at least 50 percent of the time.
  10. When someone is driving me crazy, I look within to understand why it's bothering me rather than just assuming it's all their fault. 
Ten lessons I've learned in 30 years
  1. Your gut will always tell you the truth and the longer you ignore it, the harder you'll make things on yourself. 
  2. Happiness often comes at a price. As far as I know, it's a price very few people will ever regret paying.
  3. The harder you try to please everyone else, the further you'll get from your ideal self. 
  4. Facebook is not, nor will it ever be, a good replacement for actual human contact. 
  5. Nothing is black and white. 
  6. If you grow up reading romance novels, you'll have a really skewed idea of what love is like.
  7. Good sex is really important. (I only learned that one in the last 10 years.)
  8. Whether you ever plan to own a car or not, it's still important to learn how to drive.
  9. The best remedy for anger is a really long hug. You can hug your teddy bear if you're too mad to hug a person.
  10. The people that insist that -isms no longer exist (racism, sexism, etc.) are generally living in a bubble. I say we pop their bubbles. This definitely applies to anyone who claims there's no racism surrounding beliefs about President Obama.
Ten goals for the next ten years
  1. Ten years is too much. I'm working on living in the moment these days. So goal number one is to forget the ten year plan. 
  2. Have babies. One way or another, I'm gonna be a momma. 
  3. Smile and laugh more. 
  4. Open a retreat center for emotional and physical healing. 
  5. Learn to ride a horse. 
  6. Make someone really happy. 
  7. Sit less. 
  8. Play more. 
  9. Have some semblance of financial stability. 
  10. Learn how to live in the most eco-friendly, earth-loving way possible.  


Amber Shea @Almost Vegan said...

Great lists!

I'm very interested in hearing about your..."fertility journey," if you will. I was on birth control for over 10 years and went off it last year in 2011...and have not have a period since. I try not to think about it, but as the months tick by, I'm worrying (ok, freaking out) more and more. I want to have kids too, and I'd like to start in the next year or so, so it's really scaring me. =/

Unknown said...

Great, heartfelt, post.

glutenfreehappytummy.com said...

what a great post! i agree, facebook is definitely not a replacement for human interaction -- neither is a text!

Cheryl said...

This is hands down the best post I've ever read. Thank you for saying out loud some of my own thoughts. I am now an adult, unfortunately. I can also see my mother in myself, something I swore I would never be.

Iris said...

Amber, Since I'm not in the best financial spot and not married, this is mostly just a dream at this point...I'm definitely not thinking too seriously about it. BUT I am 30 and want to have kids, so I want to make sure I'm as healthy as possible, considering my gut issues!

Cheryl, I'm so glad you liked it! I almost erased it because I wasn't sure it was any good, so your comment was a pleasant surprise!


laurelvb said...

I absolutely ADORED this post. So brave and so true. Please, do not plan the next 10 years, celebrate them as they unfold.

Gabby @ the veggie nook said...

This is beautiful! I really love the 3rd lesson about pleasing everyone. This is something I have recently been working on in my life and I've been so much happier for it.

Here's to the next 10 years. I wish you luck and happiness!

Toned Tonette said...

Ditto to lesson number 7... but most especially to lesson number 1.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts. The next ten years would be wonderful. :)

Melaina said...


This post is amazing. So many great thoughts that I am so glad you've shared! I kind of want to copy your "10 lessons" and post them on my wall.. a reminder of how important life really is.

Love your recipes, love your writing, thank you for being so inspiring!!!

Cheryl Harris said...

Happy birthday, and I love your lists!

Unknown said...

Beautiful and honest post. I would like to suggest that perhaps there might be more reasons for going off your BC pills other than b/c you eventually want to get pregnant. BC pills are contraindicated in those with GI/IBD/IBS issues. I firmly believe many of my present health issues are related to my taking BC pills for the better part of a decade.

Iris said...

Unknown, great point! I actually went off birth control pills almost exactly 2 years ago due to those exact reasons. I took them for a long time with no idea that they could be causing problems. I now have a copper IUD which, after a lot of research, I determined to be the best choice for myself. I still have the IUD because I'm not financially stable right now, but more so because I believe there's a connection between autism and leaky gut, and I want to have my health issues under control as much as possible before getting pregnant. So yes, that was a long way to say, I agree with you! I personally wish I had not been on birth control for all those years!

gfe--gluten free easily said...

Iris, you always amaze me! I love your blatant honesty, girl. ALWAYS. Happy 30th! I think we really surprise even ourselves when we write down what's in our heads. I need to do this same activity for my upcoming birthday.

My childbearing years are behind me of course, but for those interested, Donielle at Naturally Knocked Up shares lots of great info on promoting natural fertility. I'm not an affiliate, just a fan of hers. :-)



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