Saturday, May 19, 2012
Are You A People Pleaser?
I'm a people pleaser. Most of us are to some extent, right? That's just normal. But some of us are worse than others. Why am I looking at this as a bad thing? Because when you spend your life always trying to please everyone else, you give away so much of your own power. There are too many people walking around in this world without power, and way too many of us are women. So I'm taking my power back and giving up the people pleasing.
I'm taking The Daily Dietribe back.
Huh? Say what?
During a little recent Facebook drama, one very astute friend referenced "taking her Facebook back." She simply meant she had finally unfriended mean "friends." I don't have any mean Facebook friends, but I started taking my Facebook back by unsubscribing to all the random chatter I didn't need to be a part of. I love that I can connect to anyone I've ever met on Facebook (and many people I haven't met), but I don't need to know what's going on with my ex-boyfriend's ex-girlfriend's sister.
Unsubscribe. Unsubscribe. Unsubscribe.
In a similar fashion, I'm unsubscribing to all the chatter of blogging. No more checking my stats. No more analyzing which types of posts get the most hits. (We all know it's the desserts...) No more late night gallon of ice cream sob fests over mean comments. Okay, I don't actually do that, but my heart does start to race a little faster.
And no more reigning myself in. The Daily Dietribe did not start as solely a recipe blog. It was a creative outlet. It was for me. And then I started getting readers...and more readers...and a book deal...and then I started feeling pretty damn important. I started to listen to voices outside of myself, to think about The Daily Dietribe as a brand, to think about advertisers and how to attract more readers. And the more readers I got, the more I tried to please. I write posts in my head all the time, ones that I never type out because it doesn't fit with my gluten-free food theme. I censor myself because the word in my head is damn but I don't want to offend anyone, so I write darn, or I change the sentence. I have the urge to call bullshit on a lot of political nonsense, but I don't say a word because I'm a liberal and I don't want to upset any conservative readers. In short, I was trying so hard to be what everyone wants (or what I thought you wanted) that I stopped being me.
I hold back a lot, and you know what? I'm bored. There, I've said it. The Daily Dietribe is boring me. I love food, and I love cooking more than most people I know. And some days, I want to wax philosophical about the beauty of a perfectly baked brownie. Other days, I want to scream, "It's just food, people! Think about something else for a change!" The Daily Dietribe, for me, has always been about being healthy. And that encompasses so much more than just food. Some days, I want to share a photo or a quote that I like. Some days I want to tell you about how I've been using self-hypnosis to reduce stress, or about how I'm getting certified as a hypnotherapist. It's all part of what makes me healthy. And some days, I want to share cake recipes.
So here's the deal. I've decided to turn The Daily Dietribe back into what it started as. And in the beginning, no one was reading. So I'm going to pretend that's still the case, although of course I hope it's not. I hope you stay, and that you'll be entertained. Perhaps you were getting a bit bored too?
Here's what you'll see from here on out: 1) More posts. It's called The Daily Dietribe, not the Bi-Weekly Dietribe. I can't promise to write daily, but I can promise myself that I'll begin putting more of my heart back into this. 2) More of me. Whatever that happens to mean on any given day. 3) Don't worry, the recipes aren't going away! If anything, you may find you get more recipes once my creative juices are no longer squashed by my own people pleasing tendencies. 4) My real thoughts on anything and everything, be it gay marriage, natural remedies for yeast infections, God, or even grammar.
If you're still reading this, there's a good chance I haven't scared you off. If you're just here for the recipes, simply read on the days I post recipes. And if you're here for more, hopefully you'll find what you're looking for, whatever that may be. And maybe you'll start to ask yourself what there is in your life that you need to take back. Maybe we'll all start taking back our power. Wouldn't that make for a beautiful world?
Until tomorrow, my pretty little chickadees.